Don’t beat yourself up about it
Maybe you think of it as being in a rut, or having an existential crisis, or being depressed. Whatever it is, people often criticize themselves, thinking something like, “This is such a privileged-person problem. I'm embarrassed I'm even complaining.”
But you won’t get out of a rut by denying its existence -- it's just important to acknowledge it without beating yourself up for being in one.
How do you do that? Follow these steps:
1. Congratulate yourself for noticing you're in a rut. That means you have some level of emotional intelligence.
2. Give yourself permission to be in it right now. Life isn't all sunshine and rainbows. Without ruts, we wouldn't know joy. Every person goes through ruts. It's human nature.
3. Ask yourself what the rut is telling you. Are you bored? Understimulated? Depressed? Morally conflicted? Disconnected? This is an important step. If your rut is telling you you're understimulated in your entry-level position and desire more challenge, it might be important to act on that. But if your rut is telling you you're bored in your relationship of 10 years, especially since your new assistant started, you might want to take a step back and explore that one a little bit before acting on it.