In a crowded bar with blaring music and drinks clinging, it’s more important than ever to be as direct as you can be. “Whether he or she’s a regular you always see at the bar or a bartender you’re always talking to, you want to be direct,” says House, who fully encourages both sexes to go up and make the first move. “You want to take them out, right? So fucking say it.” Can’t argue with that logic.
Never Offer to Buy Someone a Drink
Gendered opinions on buying someone a drink aside, House sees the act as a poor pickup tactic all together. “There are absolutely people who go to bars with no money in their pockets,” says House. “And all they want is for someone to buy a drink, the next person to a buy a drink and so on.” So save your money until you know they’re not just using you for a free G&T. “Have a real conversation first, and if all goes well, let them know that you would love to continue talking to them and buy them a drink,” she says. “That way, you’re establishing a ‘mini-date’ with the person.”
Close the Deal Like You Close Your Bar Tab
Just as you’d never leave a bar without closing out your tab, don’t leave the conversation without asking for what you went in for—a phone number. House insists that remembering to do this is not as much of a no-brainer as you’d think. “People are often afraid to do close the deal,” she says. “Say ‘I’d love to continue talking to you,’ let them know you’re interested and would love to take them out.” If you get rejected, treat it as you would a bad cocktail: Take it in stride knowing there are plenty more in your future.