The DOs and DON’Ts of Wedding Bar Etiquette

We here at Supercall love a good wedding. Who doesn’t enjoy a night of eating, dancing, cake-ing and embarrassing speeches? Not to mention the open bar. Ah, open bar, two words that, when brought together, evoke more joy than any other phrase in the English language. But with a great open bar comes great responsibility. No one wants to be that guy (or that girl)—the lush who goes down in wedding video history as the biggest clown at the party.

We’re not saying you shouldn’t take full advantage of the complimentary bevy of booze, but there are definitely some rules you should keep in mind, and lucky for you, we went and wrote them all down.

Here are the DOs and DON’TS of wedding bar etiquette. Let them light the way so you can dance all night without waking up shrouded in shame the next morning.

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DO Remember an Open Bar Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint

The bartender isn’t going anywhere. Pace yourself.

DON’T Double Fist

See above. Double fisting looks tacky and leads to nowhere good, fast. Plus, if you’re holding a drink in each hand, how are you going to eat that mini quiche?

DO Use the Bar Line to Mingle With Other Guests

The bar queue is a great place to meet new people and find potential dance partners. Asking the person behind you in line about their order is a foolproof icebreaker. “Oh, you take your Margarita up? How fascinating. I’m more of an on-the-rocks type of guy/girl.” And just like that, a bond is forged.

DON’T Force Shots on People

This is such a no no. Unless the bride or groom insists on a wedding party round of Fireball, do not start handing out shots willy-nilly—even if that Lil Jon song comes on.

DON’T Do Shots

Come to think of it, shots are off the table entirely. Stick to sipping.

DO Make Sure to Eat Enough

The salmon might be dry and the conga line may be bumping, but skipping dinner is not an option. You need sustenance to soak up all that open-bar booze. And no, a liquid dinner doesn’t count—even if you do eat all your garnishes.

DON’T Smash Glassware

We don’t care how much fun you’re having, these are not your glasses to smash. Unless, of course, you are the bride or groom following the Jewish tradition of breaking the glass. If that is the case, then please, smash away.

DO Ask Your Tablemates if They Need Anything

Chivalry isn’t dead, folks. If you’re making a trip to the bar, have some manners and ask your tablemates if they need cocktails. L’chaim.

DON’T Complain When the Bar Doesn’t Have Your Call Liquor

It’s free. Deal with it.

DO Tip the Bartender

Just because the liquor is free, doesn’t mean the bartender is working for nothing. Show your appreciation by throwing a few bucks his or her way. Bonus: You might get some preferential treatment. Who’s next? You are, that’s who.

DON’T Overstay Your Welcome

When the party is winding down but your buzz is still going strong, avoid the urge to take over DJ duty. It’s time to call it quits. As the old saying goes, you don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here.