If you’re terrified by the idea of visiting one of those upscale craft-cocktail places with the bartenders in leather aprons and the book-length menus, well, don’t worry: You’re not alone. So many people share this phobia, they really need to coin a name for it (bespokephobia? pretensephobia?). In the meantime, we’re here to help you relax and not only overcome your fear, but also genuinely enjoy your visit to that fancy place. Because if they’re doing it right, it should be easy to have a great time there.