Be kind, respectful, and positive
"Bouncers occupy a weird space -- they have all this power in the moment, but overall, many of them belong to a lower rung in social hierarchy than the people trying to get in the bar or club. You can definitely use this to your advantage -- by using all the tips I previously gave you, and by just treating them with simple kindness and unforced respect.
"When you approach a situation with an overall sense of positivity and good nature, you automatically trigger the neurons in other people's brains to make them feel a sense of well-being, too. Be happy to see the bouncer. Smile. Don't be a jerk. This is the most basic advice I can give anyone approaching a negotiation. It's so simple, but so often overlooked."
The decision to let you in or not, is not a rational decision. It's an emotional decision.
"At the end of the day, the best way may be putting a smile on their face," Voss said. "I remember once, a panhandler stopped me in the street, and asked me, with a straight face, if I'd like to 'donate to the United Negro Pizza Fund.' This stopped me in my tracks, and I gave him some dollars. After that, I'd go out of my way to pass by his spot, and give him money every time I was in town.
"People can turn down, or cast aside a random person. They won't care. But once that random person turns into a human, who can be empathized with, or related to, favorably, this is when pure rational judgment ends, and emotional decisions start to guide people's choices. This is what you want. And it's the only way to be successful."
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Wil Fulton is a staff writer for Thrillist. Bouncers still hate him. Follow him: @wilfulton.