The after-party: all bets are off
Wedding after-parties take various forms. Sometimes the bride and groom went above and beyond and actually set something up at a nearby establishment. Sometimes there’s a perfectly good hotel bar at the ready. Sometimes you have to run out for a bag of ice and a 30-pack to throw into someone’s hotel bathtub. Regardless, you should be in fine shape to seize the rest of the evening.
And seize it you will, because this is where the advice more or less stops. The older relatives have (probably) gone to bed. The pictures have been taken. The wedding is done. As long as you don’t pull a fire alarm or headbutt a bartender, no one’s particularly going to care what you do from here on out. Except you, that is. So yeah, if you’ve been dying to throw back a round of shots all night, go nuts (your predicament the next morning’s on you). If you want to be social, have one or two more at a leisurely pace and call it a night, there’s nothing wrong with that. If you want to ditch the after-party altogether because, much to your surprise, all that Cupid Shuffling worked and that bridesmaid (or groomsman!) is giving you the look, then well played, sir. No one’s going to miss you.