Don't neg her
(Editor's Note: "Neg" is a pick-up artist slang term for an insult in the clothing of a compliment, as made popular by that book The Game by Neil Strauss, which no one admits they've read. Including this editor.)
"Tell her that her titties make her ass look smaller! Girls love a complim-insult! Just kidding."
Don't rush the hook-up
“... unless its obviously on. The more pressure, the more I get turned off. It's the basic common sense rule of knowing your audience. Some women may love that Mystery pick-up line/negging shit (Editor's Note: Mystery is one of the main pick-up artists in that book The Game that we never read.) -- the guy just needs to figure it out before the tactics are deployed. If she's not that kind of woman, then approach her as if she was a friend, find some common ground, hopefully get in a laugh, and make a real connection beyond the obvious 'how fast can I get her in bed?' challenge.”
Come up with a distracting activity
“Challenge her to a game of pool. Or ask her to be your pool partner. Erotic Photo Match may not be the best, but who knows. I'm partial to distracting activities around strangers though [so it doesn't get awkward or whatever].”
Be nice to the bartender
“Major turn-off when a guy approaches, offers to buy a drink smoothly, and proceeds to snap or shout for the attention of the bartender. Patience and kindness is seductive.”
Don't try too hard to be funny
“Things that are not funny include: comments about the bar/the service, politics/religion (this isn't your stand-up show), my body, or my friends. Sadly there's no blanket for what does land, but still-confident-and-a-little-self-deprecating is usually a solid approach that can be really charming when used well.”
No means no
“Take no for an answer.”
Dan Gentile is a staff writer on Thrillist's National Food and Drink team. He'd like to thank all the women who contributed to this. May their lives be filled with free beverages of their choosing and tasteful jukebox selections. Follow him to giving all this a try at @Dannosphere.