There are six things you need to look out for
All the bartenders I talked to agreed on these six flirting facts. I call it the P.A.N.D.A.S™ Point System, and you need a combined score of at least 10 before you can be sure your 'tender is for real. Bring your legal pads to the bars, boys!
Physical contact (one point)
"One of my co-workers has this move, he used to leave the bar and brush past a girl he was trying to pick up, and put his hand on her shoulder when he walked around her. He said it worked 50% of the time... which might be a stretch," said my brother Tripp Fulton, who was a bartender for five years in Baltimore, Maryland at a smatter of fine (and not-so-fine) establishments.
Attention... an unusual amount of it, especially if the bar is busy (two points)
"Most bartenders -- by their nature, are just extroverts," Amy said. "I think if I’m flirting with you, you should probably know it. But it doesn't always seem that easy for guys. As so many think I'm flirting with them, when I’m really not."
"Look, guys don’t really ‘flirt’ with customers the way girls do, when a guy is coming on to you, you're going to know it. He's going to buy you drinks, and he’s going to start spending all his time around your corner -- it’s going to be obvious, unless he’s trying to hide it from his boss," said Fulton.
Not making you pay for drinks (three points)
"I’d pay extra attention to the dude, even when I'm swamped... like noticing he needs a drink,” said Bri S., my old college chum, and Hooters alum. "And then I’d start giving him drinks for free. A lot of drinks."
Divulging personal info about themselves (four points)
"Guys will play the lonely hearts club -- ‘Oh, my ex-girlfriend and I used to go there...’ -- he’s showcasing his mate status. If you hear any guy talk about his ex in a wistful way... it’s so you know they are single,” radio host and psychologist Dr. Wendy Walsh told me.
"You are never sure what a guy’s deal is, and sometimes it’s hard to tell by the people he’s with. So first, I'd probably tell him something about myself... plans, or what I like to do or something," said Amy.
Any inquiries that may lead to you divulging personal information about yourself (five points)
Amy continues: "Then if he’s really not getting the hint, I’ll just start sending out feelers, asking him about his situation, casually getting to the bottom of his relationship status."
Second platform connection (six points)
A number, a friend request, or an Instagram follow -- they're like "breaking the seal” of the bartender-customer stand-off. "That means we want to stay in touch, we would be willing to interact outside the bar," Amy said. “It means you are probably in."