3. Get off your cell phone
A cell phone in your face tells the world to leave you alone, in the same way that sweatpants tell the world you’ve given up. If a good bartender sees you drinking alone or with human friends, she’ll talk to you. If she sees you nose deep in stats proving Chris Paul's been the best point guard in history over the past five years, she probably won't.
4. Remember she’s at work
Getting drinks in hands is still her number one priority; no matter how eager she might be to help you break your dry spell/continue your hot streak, you're still going to have to be patient.
5. Communicate who it is you’re into
Bartenders might have a front row seat, but they don’t read minds. If someone at the bar is getting you all worked up (in a positive, romantisexual way), ask the bartender what she thinks about her. If you’re already on a date, wait for her to go the bathroom, then chat with your bartender about how it's going and maybe your bartender will help it go better.