Step 1: Determine the appropriate time and place
With sweaty palms, a racing heart, and a beet-red face, I finally unleashed the secret I'd been keeping locked away in an airtight, smell-proof container the last several years. It was a small Thanksgiving dinner with only my parents and siblings, and as full plates of food turned to crumbs, I knew it was now or never.
When you decide to make the move for yourself, consider who will be present and what the general mood will be. For me, that was a holiday dinner with just my immediate family. Spirits were high, bellies were full, and wine glasses were empty. I knew there'd be plenty of time to talk it out, and my siblings were there should I need any their support.
If the spontaneous bomb-drop "we need to talk about something" angle seems unnatural, segue from a relevant conversation. Maybe your state will be voting on a marijuana initiative, or a family member is complaining about a symptom that could be treated with medical cannabis. Whatever your point of entrance may be, just make sure it's done in a comfortable environment with enough time to discuss.