Sex Tips for Boring People will take your sex life from vanilla to passion fruit. Or at least from vanilla to vanilla bean. Find more sexy advice right here.
It’s not easy to be amazing at sex. I mean, I’m sure YOU are, but I’m speaking to the rest of those amateurs out there. It’s easy to not be completely awful, though, which, really, is all we ask -- because faking it is exhausting.
I’m sure YOU don’t need any tips on sex because you’ve seen porn and maybe even have two positions in your repertoire. But just to be safe, Sex Tips for Boring People is here to help you be a little better in the sack. Just in case.
“When is the least awkward time to introduce lube into the equation?”
Unfortunately there really isn’t a great time to say, “please stop immediately, as what you’re doing is exceedingly painful.” But for the sake of the rest of your naked encounter, or the possibility of ever hooking up with this person again, sometimes it really does need to be said. It’s not that anyone is necessarily doing anything wrong. Sometimes this is just how it works.
We can all agree that sex is so much better without a condom (like, so much). But not using them is just plain stupid (like, so stupid). And no matter the amount of ribbedness or pre-lubiness, they tend to get dry, which feels less than awesome for everyone. Then it all deteriorates into one big uncomfortable, arid disaster. While lube has gotten an unfairly bad reputation, as it somehow signals that one of you is deficient, lube can be your best friend. The best time to use it is really as soon as things start to feel less than good. Leaving it near your bedside greatly diminishes the awkward period of silence as you stop, apply, and resume, which can leave a gaping window of time for, “um... is everything okay?” You can even make a preemptive strike and put lube on immediately, which means you won’t have to stop in the middle of anything.
But hopefully you’re both adult enough to acknowledge that sometimes this happens and that it’s better to nip it in the bud than endure another painful 20 minutes of contorted face-making when the other isn’t looking just to spare someone’s feelings.