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Smart Phones Are Ruining Your Relationships

I have two married friends that -- seriously -- admit openly to playing iPhone games while they have sex. I'm not kidding. They have a personal competition to see how many points they can rack up before they...um...finish. It's fucking weird. But also, maybe kind of genius.

Because the use of smartphones during intimate periods like cuddling, romantic dinners, and sex, has now been proven to drive (most) couples apart. "Phubbing," (phone snubbing) is a phrase that has become a commonplace in Australia and the UK: If you've ever been had a conversation abruptly interrupted by someone else checking their phone, you've been phubbed.

Recently, Baylor University professors James Roberts and Meredith David conducted a study, specifically focused on romantically involved couples phubbing each other (sounds sexy, but it's not), and the ramifications this had on their relationships. As it turns out, "P-phubbing" (partner phubbing) takes a measured toll on relationships.
 


 

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They polled 150 men and women in relationships and asked them to rank the relevance of questions like "During a typical mealtime that my partner and I spend together, my partner pulls out and checks his/her cell phone," "If there is a lull in our conversation, my partner will check his or her cell phone," and "When my partner’s cell phone rings or beeps, he/she pulls it out even if we are in the middle of a conversation."

In the end, the researchers determined through extensive survey data that p-phubbing your partner can play a measurable role in creating conflict, and accelerating the ultimate demise of relationships, particularly in couples that already have anxiety, jealousy, and separation issues. And, p-phubbed men and women feel less romantically satisfied, and happy, overall. 

So the next time you are hanging out with your partner, eating dinner, Netflix and 'chilling,' or whatever else, try to keep your eyes on the prize, and off your iPhone. Your relationship may depend on it.  

On the other hand, if you are trying to break it off with your mate, and don't have the cojones to go through with it -- take a lesson from my two weirdo friends, and just whip out your phone, and start texting mid-coitus. 

Trust me, it should do the trick. 


Wil Fulton is a Staff Writer for Thrillist Media Group. He'd give you his number, but he's probably having sex right now. So just follow him @WilFulton.

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