Losing weight quickly is unhealthy
Actually, the opposite is often true. Bodies carrying a ton of excess fat have a higher risk of developing a whole menagerie of diseases, potentially fatal, so losing weight quickly can mean immediate, drastic improvements to physical health. When I quickly lost more than half my bodyweight my (bad) cholesterol went down and my blood pressure quickly improved. I also moved swiftly out of pre-diabetic and into not-the-least-bit diabetic. That was nice.
Losing weight will improve or eliminate joint pain
Sadly, this isn't always true. I never had joint pain when I was obese, but I've struggled with knee pain on and off for years at a healthy weight. I've helped scores of women lose weight, many of whom had lower-body joint pain. Some got no relief from their pain even at their goal weight, and only a handful were pain-free post-weight loss. (Sorry! Losing weight can and does make a lot of things better, but it's not the magic bullet many chalk it up to be.)
Losing weight will make you happier
Contrary to popular belief, thin doesn't equal happy. In my case, weighing less was a novel, bubbly wonderland for a while, but depression, anxiety, my suck-ass romantic situation, and my shitty job were all right there waiting for me once the spell wore off. I'm much happier today than I was when I was obese, but it's not because I lost my weight -- it's because I did (and continue to do) the inner work I needed to do so I could treat myself well consistently.
Losing weight is the hardest part
Nope. Losing weight is hard to do, for sure, but compared to the years to be lived post-weight loss, the weight-loss period is usually brief. I've had to hit my goal weight a gaggle of times, because the hardest part is continuing to make healthy, mindful choices in the millions of moments that come after the weight is lost. Because we're self-sabotaging ninjas, most of us revert back to our old habits post-weight loss, and we gain all our weight back and then some. Only those willing to do the work to get a handle on self-sabotage can expect to keep weight off for the long haul.
Losing weight is about discipline
This one's true, but only if the loser doesn't mind regaining the weight they lost, and a little extra besides. Discipline alone doesn't result in healthy, sustainable weight loss. Once you're obese, maintaining a healthy weight in a healthy way for life calls for a colorful concoction of self-reflection, truth-seeking, open-mindedness, willingness, and ongoing support.
Luckily, all of that's available. And when you stop getting sidetracked by the BS surrounding weight loss, you're much more likely to find it.
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Kelly Coffey is a personal trainer and writer. Come to her free online workshop, "Why We Sabotage Ourselves (with Food) (and What We Can Do About It)" by clicking here. Follow her on Facebook here.