There was a major disconnect between my body and my personality
Large women often get to be louder and funnier than thin women because fewer people feel threatened by a large woman (and heaven forbid a gal make anyone feel uncomfortable). After I lost weight, I was aware of this disconnect between my big personality and my thin face and body. It’s been over a decade, and I’m happy to say the identity crisis has (mostly) passed.
My other addictions flared up like a forest fire
Turns out addiction is migratory, like birds and crabs. Food was my first addiction, but when I stopped compulsively overeating, my instinct was to act out more with booze, drugs, and sex. I understand now that my obesity was a symptom of a deeper problem, and not the problem itself. Dealing with my addictive bent has helped me maintain my extreme weight loss.
The real work began AFTER I lost the weight
The credits didn't roll the day I buttoned a pair of size 6 jeans. I still had a bunch of unresolved problems and a real life to live. Coping with my thoughts and emotions in a healthy way was -- and still is -- hard work, but like anything else, it's gotten easier with practice.
The odds are pretty good that I'll gain it all back
I'm one of the few people who lose a ton of weight and keep it off for a decade or more. The vast majority of people who lose a bunch of weight gain it all back and then some. If I get complacent, if I think I’m "cured," or if I fall into the trap of trying to act and eat "like a normal person," I’ll be back to 307lb in no time.
Losing a bunch of weight can be great, but like any other major life event -- getting hitched, having a kid, starting a business -- it's anything but simple. If you want to know what to expect and how best to handle it, talk to someone who’s been where you are, and who’s gotten the results you want.
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