How to Hook Up in Vegas According to a Server, a Bartender, and a Stripper

Courtesy of Rhumbar
Courtesy of Rhumbar

People visit Las Vegas for a variety of reasons. Some are trying to win big at the tables; others are in town for the entertainment. But there’s one thing that rings louder than the jackpot alarm on a penny slot machine: everyone is trying to hook up. That guy over there? He’s trying to hook up. The girl in the impossibly high heels? Yep, her too. Grandma?! You better believe it. And Vegas is a great place to get some action... if you know how to do it right.

We enlisted the help of a few female professionals in some of the most common places where women tend to get hit on: nightclubs, the bar, and the strip club. They shared their thoughts and observations on what they’ve seen on the job while people try (and in some cases, try and try and try) to get lucky in the City of Sin.

Anthony Mair/Courtesy of Chateau

The nightclub

Andrea Pintozzi works as a cocktail server at Chateau, a popular nightclub at the Paris resort and casino. It’s a place that draws attractive women in tight dresses who are ready to drink, dance, and maybe, meet the right guy.

“Las Vegas is definitely different from other cities for dating. The city never sleeps. You can go out and drink at any time. People start to get wrapped up in the lifestyle. They have beautiful people at their disposal so dating starts to get a little hard because it just becomes hooking up instead of a serious thing. So you really have to weed people out to find that good person and be patient.”

But make no mistake about it, many of these women are paying attention to the gentlemen who are spending big bucks on bottle service at the VIP tables.

“There are all sorts of people who come to town from all walks of life,” says Andrea. “If they see a guy popping off a lot of bottles, they might think ‘Oh, who is he? What’s he doing?’ Some might think he has a lot of money. So for a guy, I think it’s a great thing for hooking up,” she laughs. “If I was a guy, that’s probably what I would do.”

However, it’s not just about the money. It’s about being the center of attention. Girls are drawn to where the most fun is taking place.  

“You’re not really paying for the bottle. You’re paying for the presentation,” Andrea continues. “The girls (who work at Chateau) will come out with sparklers and confetti and make a big to-do so everybody in the club knows you just bought a bottle.”

Andrea is also quick to point out that there are plenty of girls in the club who place personality in higher regard than credit card limits. Sometimes all a guy has to do is introduce himself.

“Just be yourself. Don’t do anything too over-the-top crazy. Don’t let the alcohol get to you.”

And it doesn’t hurt to pay a compliment, but make sure you’re doing it right.

“I wouldn’t use the words ‘hot’ or ‘sexy’,” advises Andrea. “I think women like to hear they look beautiful or pretty. Using those words instead speaks with a little more volume when giving a compliment.”

Another thing to keep in mind: most girls are wearing heels and don’t want to stand around the bar all night. So feel free to invite a girl back to your table... and her friends.

“You always want to invite her friends, too,” Andrea continues. “By inviting her friends, she feels comfortable and then everyone has a good time. She came with her friends, so she’s leaving with her friends. If you invite all of them over, your odds are way better.”

Bottom line to hooking up: Spend the big bucks on bottle service and invite your potential hookup -- and her friends -- back to your table. If that’s out of your budget, just introduce yourself and pay them a compliment that doesn’t make you look like an amateur. But really, get bottle service.

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The bar

Sandra Roark, a bartender, plays first hand witness to the (failed) hook-ups that take place every night at Rhumbar, an ultra-lounge tucked off the casino floor of the Mirage.

“It’s a very comfortable, cozy setting,” Sandra points out. “Our patio is set up with couches, and it’s very relaxing. So it’s a great place if you are trying to find somebody. There is a dance floor but you can also hang out, talk and get to know each other.”

Unfortunately, most guys end up starting with the same things: “How are you?” and “Where are you from?” And with the competition to hook up in Vegas predictably fierce, a guy can be quickly overlooked and forgotten if he’s coming across as too cocky and failing to be genuine.

“There’s a lot of single people,” says Sandra about life in Sin City. “There’s a lot of good looking, attractive people. Temptation is high so it just kind of raises the bar for everything.”

She notices that guys will eagerly hit on bachelorette parties because it’s a large pool to draw from, but it’s not always the best idea. The girls will often just take advantage of the guys to get free drinks in between visits to the dance floor.

Instead, Sandra says a guy should take his time, make a real connection and compliment a girl’s style instead of her looks.

So, where to start?

“Her shoes. All girls love shoes.”

Bottom line to hooking up: Be patient and don’t rely on pick-up lines. But most of all, be genuine and present with who you’re talking with. Also compliment her shoes.

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The strip club

“Sarah,” who asked we use a fake name, is a former exotic dancer at Sapphire Gentlemen’s Club. She’d describe the dating scene in Vegas as scant due to its transient nature.

“We condone hooking up here over actual relationships and dating,” she says, citing the famous “What Happens Here, Stays Here” advertising campaign. “It’s not a place where people date as seriously as they do in other cities."

And she would know about male-female interactions. As one of the most popular, and largest, strip clubs in Vegas, the venue saw no shortage of women in the audience.

“Sapphire is one of the few strip clubs in Vegas that lets girls come in without guys. At a lot of them, you’re required to have a male escort because they are afraid of prostitutes trying to pick up clients there.”

Sarah saw a lot of interactions go down, most of which involved groups of guys meeting bachelorette parties and buying them drinks and lap dances, hoping to score. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t. But more importantly, what about the single guys looking to meet an employee? Is it possible to hit on one of the dancers and continue the relationship outside the club?

According to Sarah, it’s extremely rare.

“One of the most annoying things as a dancer is when someone comes in and asks you to go out with them later that night. ‘Come to the club with me’ or ‘No, I don’t want to dance but I’d love to take you on a date.’ It’s almost like they don’t realize that you’re at work.”

And it’s even worse if you have a bad opening line.

“One of the worst things I ever heard was when I was walking by the bar and some guy said, ‘Oh I just called you’,” Sarah recalls. “I said, ‘How is that possible? You don’t have my number. I’ve never seen you before in my life,’ and he was like ‘No, I just called your ad.’ Apparently he was mistaking me for an escort."

But every now and then (and again, it’s extremely rare) a dancer does end up dating a customer.

“The best thing is actually talking like a normal person. Being genuine is by far the best way to pick up a girl in that sort of industry. Is she still spending time with you even when you are not spending money? And are you having a real conversation? Is there actual feedback going back and forth or is it just you talking while she’s nodding her head?”

However, Sarah also warns not want to get your hopes up too quickly.

“Sometimes it’s just a slow night, and you want someone to talk with you.”

Bottom line to hooking up: If you think you’ve got what it takes, try politely talking to a dancer. If you’re playing the odds, stick to buying drinks for bachelorette parties.

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Rob Kachelriess is better at shutting up than hooking up. Follow him on Twitter @rkachelriess.