YOU WILL GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION
Even if you screw up all of the above, have hope. I met my now-wife’s mother a few months into dating. With all the confidence of a man in his twenties, I went away thinking I had totally nailed it. Later on I would discover, in fact, I had severely blown it. What I thought was confidence and a laid-back attitude actually came off as aloof and disinterested.
At first I was defensive – how could she not like me? (Ah, the hubris of youth.) But I realized that regardless of my ego, her opinion of me mattered more than my own. Since my girlfriend was a keeper, I needed to convince her mother I was, too. I made sure that my second (and third and fourth and fifth and sixth… ) impression was stronger than our initial meeting.
The next time I saw my future mother-in-law, I immediately asked how she had been doing and inquired about a sick relative she had mentioned during her previous visit. From that moment on, it was off to the perfect boyfriend races: If there was a dish to be washed after family dinners, I was scrubbing it. If a door needed opening, I was holding it. But mostly I was making sure to be legitimately engaged and interested in what they said and did. Even if I went a little overboard, it was better than her mom thinking that I didn’t care. In time, I improved my standing.
So that’s it. Everything you need to be somebody they cling to, instead of someone they’re stuck with. You’ve got this, Switzerland.