Talk less and listen more
Some cope with social anxiety by trying to fill the silence with chatter, but doing so will likely put you on your boss's “avoid” list, rather than in their good graces. Instead, be curious: actively listen to the stories your boss and co-workers tell, then ask follow-up questions to keep them talking. A mix of open-ended and yes/no questions will move the conversation along -- when in doubt, fall back on who, what, when, where, why, or how. This will prove that you're truly engaging with the conversation, rather than just waiting for your turn to speak, which will make a lasting impression on your teammates and manager. Also, pay attention to non-verbal cues that it's time to enter or leave the conversation, Swann says. If someone starts glancing around the room or takes a step away from you, take it as a signal to move on.