Sandra LaMorgese, PhD, professional dominatrix
All over NYC
How she got the job: “I lost my wellness practice in 2011 during the wake of the Great Recession. I was 55 with no prospects, no financial savings, no family members who would help, and friends who seemed to vanish into thin air. Then one day, out of the blue, came the idea to become a professional dominatrix. At first the idea was nothing more than an offhand joke between me and a friend. Slowly, though, the idea took root in my mind.
"At the time, I was working to earn my PhD in metaphysical science, studying female sexual empowerment and researching the transmutation of sexual energy. As a student of empowerment and sexuality, I knew that becoming a dominatrix would truly teach me to ‘walk the walk’ of authentic, non-judgmental sexuality, but no matter how hard I tried to talk myself into it there was nothing in my reality telling me it was possible. At the same time, I suspected that the experience could empower me as a woman. After weeks of using my most impressive powers of persuasion, I finally convinced a NYC BDSM dungeon to grant me an in-person interview. I started my training three days later.”
What she does: “As a practitioner in fetish and domination, my role is to help facilitate a client’s authenticity and sexual expression. Many times, I am contacted by men who are expressing their deepest desires and feelings out loud to another person for the first time in their entire lives. The intimate and non-judgmental relationships I have with my clients are built on trust and respect. During our sessions clients may take on a feminine role and dress in lingerie, makeup, nail polish, and wigs to help assist in the expression of being female, while others may have a foot fetish, adult baby fetish, or kidnapping and death fetish. I have a client who takes on the role of a little lamb, and I role-play that I’m going to slaughter him for dinner.”
Note: With Sandra’s job there is absolutely no sex. No blow jobs, hand jobs, or foot jobs. Her boss tells her, “If we get busted because you had sex with a client, you get charged with a misdemeanor and I get charged with a felony for making the appointment for you. That makes me your pimp and I go to jail. Never, ever show your ass or tits to a client. You are superior to the submissive clients and slaves. If they are lucky you may allow them to lick the bottom of your shoes.”