Do damage control if you party a little too hard
Every expert we spoke to for this story said it’s totally fine to attend a post-work happy hour (some even suggested you pay for the first round of drinks -- sorry). Obviously, the goal shouldn’t be to over do it, but let’s be honest, it does happen. What you do the next day is crucial: apologize, says Cynthia D. Marco-Scanlon, Ph.D., president of the National Career Development Association. “You can make a joke about it to your peers and the people who report to you, saying ‘that was an example of what you shouldn’t do!’” Just be more serious -- and sincere -- to your bosses, if they were there too.
Don’t use the BCC function
“Only use the BCC if it’s absolutely necessary,” says Marco-Scanlon. “It’s such a secretive, manipulative behind-the-scenes kind of thing.” And, if you need to add someone to a chain, make sure you announce it to the rest of the people on the original thread.
Lay it all out there with your friends-turned-employees
It’s probably weird that you’re now the boss to some of your friends. Make it less weird! Have a chat with your new reports to lay out some ground rules and talk about how your relationship might change. You can still go to lunch together -- just don’t do it every day, because that could make it awkward for other people. “You want to look at how your friendship with your employee will impact his relationship with others in the office,” says Marco-Scanlon.
Don’t throw anyone under the bus
“Blaming other people destroys relationships, it takes the other person down so many notches, especially in terms of trust and respect,” says Marco-Scanlon. Don’t be so quick to point fingers and, instead, work with your staff to problem-solve.
Be nice -- and fun
Being a good manager is about being friendly, approachable and positive, but also being constructive and helping them grow, says Erin Bury, who manages 10 employees at marketing agency, 88 Creative. “And, of course, instituting policies like half-day Fridays in the summer help." Like with a lot of things, being a good manager is all about balance. If you can maintain a spirit of fun as well as projecting a seriousness that gets 'ish done, you'll look great to those above and below.