Rejection happens to everyone. Relationships end, and people keep existing. But the omnipresence of rejection doesn't mean that some advice isn't welcome, particularly when you're on the tenth viewing of High Fidelty and completely played out For Emma, Forever Ago. The philosophically inclined School of Life has some thoughts on how best to move on, offered in the above animated video.
Here are a four highlights from the video to help the rejected restore a new equilibrium.
1. Don't attempt to minimize what has happened. "Allow your sadness so much room... so many melancholic songs... [that] you eventually bore yourself back into an appetite for life."
2. Believe the rejection. If a partner says that relationships are like sharks in that they have to move forward or die, and that you might have a dead shark on your hands, believe it. Past actions aren't an indication that this will reverse itself.
3. Remove morality from the situation. The other person is not bad for not loving you, "nor were you good for wanting them... Don't turn this into a morality tale." If they were acting strangely around the time of the rejection, it's because they felt bad.
4. "Don't keep thinking of the end of this relationship as tragically sad. The only good relationship, the only relationship worth mourning would be one to which two people desperately wanted to belong. And this one, wasn't, in the end, despite all the promising signs, that kind of relationship." Ouch. True. But ouch.
And don't forget the gem at the end. "Have a few rounds of casual sex, if that helps."