“Ugh. Dating sucks in LA.”
I’m a dating coach, professionally (yes, it’s a real thing), and I hear this all the time. But guess what: if you’re saying it, you’re just wrong. Stop blaming the city for your singleness, and embrace where you are: for real, LA’s a great place to date.
“But everyone’s so shallow!!!” you probably just responded. “It’s all just transient transplants. There’s something brighter around the corner!!!!”
Those problems are not actually problems when you look at the city objectively. I promise. The real problem is that you fall into a category that makes it hard to date YOU. So get out of your comfort zone -- and get over yourself -- and you can find love or something like it. Here's how.
Everyone wants to stand out
And while that can be annoying at times, the great news is that in order to stand out, you’ve actually got to be interesting in some way. Sure, there are bunches of beautiful and “creative” models, actors, “directors and producers,” who try to define themselves based on their looks or IMDB page. Yes, there are more than a few flakey and flighty people. And while the starry-eyed types might, in many ways, define the city and even blanket it, there is much more substance beneath the thin layer of fluff. Your job is to find those interesting, dynamic, intellectual people with varied attitudes, careers, and lifestyles. How? Be one of those people, and you’ll attract others like you. Otherwise you’re just complaining into the ether.