Whatever your preferred method of birth control is, keep it handy… unless it’s an oral contraceptive or IUD, neither of which requires game-time play. The fewer logistics you have to take care of in the heat of the moment, the better. Who wants to search high and low for a condom when you have a hard cock at the ready? Diaphragms, cervical caps, spermicide, and condoms belong in bedside tables. Abide by the Scout motto: always be prepared.
I know, dental dams are a total buzz kill. For more people than not, they’re an oddity: brand-new to the safe-sex playbook. But as a gal who likes to be on the giving and receiving end of female oral sex, these things are a necessity. Sure, I’d love to give and get pleasure with reckless abandon; but I’m not keen on contracting chlamydia, gonorrhea or syphilis. Dams, like the sheer ones Glyde makes, are thin and allow for semi-vulva visibility.
Alright, gloves are another maybe-not-so-glamorous barrier method, but an essential item in any safe sex collection. Gloves – latex or nitrile – are essential for genital touching and finger and anal fucking. If you’re not quite ready for intercourse, but still want to safely get off, this is the way to go. It doesn’t feel all that different than finger-on-flesh interaction and there’s still something hot about seeing your partner pull out and put on a glove. Because when the gloves come out, it’s sexy time.Still, I get it, it’s not for everyone -- not all sex partners, especially monogamous couples, feel the need for such safety measures.
Spit has no place parading as lube, unless it’s in porn, when all realistic depictions are (many times) kicked to the curb. Trust me, there are far better options. If I’m spending quality hands-on time with myself, I use almond oil. It’s cheap, readily available, and adds just the right slippability (I made that word up) to my fingers and toys. Plus, it makes my labia folds super soft, so basically it’s like a spa treatment for my pussy. That said, oil-based lubricants don’t play nice with condoms -- so stick to products made for that purpose. Right now, I rotate between Good Clean Love, a water-based lube, and überlube, a silicone lube that is rocking my world. Again, it’s good to have options.