Alright, gloves are another maybe-not-so-glamorous barrier method, but an essential item in any safe sex collection. Gloves – latex or nitrile – are essential for genital touching and finger and anal fucking. If you’re not quite ready for intercourse, but still want to safely get off, this is the way to go. It doesn’t feel all that different than finger-on-flesh interaction and there’s still something hot about seeing your partner pull out and put on a glove. Because when the gloves come out, it’s sexy time.Still, I get it, it’s not for everyone -- not all sex partners, especially monogamous couples, feel the need for such safety measures.
Spit has no place parading as lube, unless it’s in porn, when all realistic depictions are (many times) kicked to the curb. Trust me, there are far better options. If I’m spending quality hands-on time with myself, I use almond oil. It’s cheap, readily available, and adds just the right slippability (I made that word up) to my fingers and toys. Plus, it makes my labia folds super soft, so basically it’s like a spa treatment for my pussy. That said, oil-based lubricants don’t play nice with condoms -- so stick to products made for that purpose. Right now, I rotate between Good Clean Love, a water-based lube, and überlube, a silicone lube that is rocking my world. Again, it’s good to have options.