Most of us have seen addiction in action enough to know its disastrous effects on dreams, families, goals, health, and spirituality. My own struggle with addiction has lasted for 25 years, the last seven of which have been spent "sober."
But my stories differ from those you typically hear, because my addiction is to sex, not drugs, gambling, or alcohol. To many, this addiction is a strange one to consider. So I’m sharing some of my anecdotal experience, and hope to dispel a few myths and offer clarity about sex addiction and recovery from it.
It sounds like a line from David Lynch’s The Elephant Man, but it's true: sex addicts are just human beings trying to work through our issues. For a sex addict looking for help, the first therapy session or 12-step meeting can be petrifying. Many of us expected a shadowy cabal of oleaginous men in trench coats and skeevy women in stilettos. Instead, we discovered a group of mothers and fathers, daughters and sons whose sexual proclivities threatened their livelihoods and very literally, their lives. Perhaps our preconceived notion of sex addicts keeps our addiction on the fringes of the mental health world. Sadly, this notion also prevents more of us from seeking therapy in the first place.