Know your role
We all have different fantasies, and what better way to explore them than with a partner you can trust and relax with? "I would be really into role play," says Lindsay, 39. "Come into the bedroom in a tux, treat me like your Bond girl, and show me your 007."
Three-ways aren't just fantasies for guys
Just as some men dream of threesomes, a number of women we spoke to are interested in bringing one (or several) extra partners into the bedroom on occasion. "I know my husband would never go for it," says Katherine, 34, "but I wouldn't mind having a threesome with another man. He seems to think it's normal for men to want sex with two women, but really judges women who do. So I never mention it."
Leave your bed out of it
Remember your first apartment when you couldn't wait to "christen" every room? That kind of enthusiasm is just what Cassie, 32, is looking for. "A bed is great and comfortable," she says, "but what about the shower, the kitchen counter, and on top of the table by the swimming pool? There are so many opportunities and fun places to have sex beyond under the duvet."