She's unsure about how you feel about her
Think about your behavior and the way you speak to her. If she isn't clear about whether you're really attracted to her, you're less likely to get her in bed.
"There are some guys who will flirt with you in person here and there," says Haley, 36, "but then go stone-cold casual on text or vice versa. Whether it's casual sex or you're into me, I need to have a real understanding of where I stand before I go to bed with you. Some guys make you feel like they're just taking a shot in the moment, which is really boring."
You're all about the innuendo
Flirting on a date is a great way to gauge her interest. But blatant sexual references? Not so much.
"I can be so into a guy," says Alicia, 34, "but once he starts acting douchey with the sex talk early on, I am out. If you can't have a non-sexual conversation for two full dates, you're not worth sleeping with."
You're not consistent
Life is busy, we get it. But if you're making plans with her every 14 to 21 days, you're sending her from hot to cold.
"I was totally into this guy and we would have great dates every couple of weeks," says Janice, 29. "But it got to the point where I felt like we were on a Groundhog Day first date. It's not sexy to get those butterfly feelings and then have to sit around and wait for weeks on end to feel them again."
You flash your black card
There are some men who think that money impresses a woman, but being a baller can backfire. Bad.
"I once went on a date with a guy I was very attracted to but he would not stop alluding to how much money he had," says Gabrielle, 38. "'I just bought a $40 billion company,' he said over drinks. I was so turned off by his obvious insecurity and pissed off he was basically insinuating that I was a hooker."
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