In fact, we've miraculously remained very close. Here's how.
We acknowledged it wasn't working
It sounds like the logline to a sitcom pilot, but it works. We defied the American divorce norm by acknowledging we absolutely couldn't be married, and subsequently found camaraderie in that shared knowledge.
Forty-eight percent of marriages in America end in divorce. The purpose of my particular separation from my wife was moving on from a stuck place of old, persistent hurt related to me breaking her trust and our relationship never moving past it.
When things first got bad, we tried very hard to stay together -- the result of attachment issues left over from our respective childhoods. But when we discovered neither of us could be ourselves in the marriage, we were finished. Our breakup came with acceptance, not resignation.