It also helps that we genuinely appreciate each other's company. She’s a badass, hardworking entrepreneur. We have always been simpatico intellectually, culturally, and artistically, which is foundational for how we interact today. We’re also very proud of our children, whose broadminded outlook reflects their multicultural heritage.
It’s easy to recall what we like about each other. Years ago, when we sat on our bed holding each other crying, realizing it was over once and for all, we were deeply saddened. But we were also relieved. We knew we had done our best.
For his part, my ex-wife’s new husband helps the kids with homework and has become a proud stepdad, a gig he'd never anticipated holding at his age on top of his other titles as well-regarded systems engineer and homeowner under the age of 30. That’s awesome.
All five of us traveled to Disneyland last Christmas and it was bananas how well the whole vacation worked. We’ve eaten Mother’s Day brunches and attended NorCal weddings. We’ve stayed in quaint Durango for our favorite Cajun boil and zip-lining. We have a weekly schedule, but if I want more time with the kids, all I do is ask. I'm willing to house-sit their new home -- and if they need a date night, I hang with the kiddies.