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Dear Auntie Gigi,
I've been with my partner for a total of 10 years, married for two of them. Throughout the relationship, our sex life has never been great. When it could be considered "regular," it was once a month. Now it's a much different story: This year, we've only had sex twice. One of those times was because it was my birthday.
My wife has a pretty serious anxiety disorder and has told me she's lost her sex drive. Doctors can't find any reason for it. It’s gotten to the point where even small acts of intimacy like holding her hand or kissing her causes her serious anxiety.