Squirming, flinching, squealing: what body language to watch for
“If you're going to be the Top (the person delivering the spanking) in a spanking scene, you'll want to pay very close attention to your Bottom's (the person receiving the spanking) body language and other little details, such as skin sensitivity and fragility,” says Makai. This is particularly important if your spankee partner is someone you're less familiar with. It's entirely normal for the Bottom in a spanking session to squirm, flinch, wince, or squeal during a spanking. It's not really normal for the Bottom to panic, struggle, scream, or cry. “After all, you're supposed to be doing this because you both enjoy it, right?” he says.
Play it safe
“There should always be a safe word or non-verbal signal that is understood by both parties as something that will bring everything to an immediate halt,” says Makai. This is really important, even just for simple spankings, since you never know how some people will react. “It is an unfortunate fact of life that spankings can sometimes be a trigger that reminds individuals of childhood abuse.”