And the women who attend... how do they identify themselves?
We ask women to rate their sexuality according to the Kinsey Scale -- zero to six. Over 60% of our members are a two or three rating.
What does a typical night look like?
You would probably arrive feeling shit-scared, because you’re coming as a lady on your own, to a party where you don’t know anyone at a stranger’s home. That’s very intimidating. Women are not used to doing the chatting up, they’re used to being chatted up.
It’s a very scary thing to do. We have a lot of no-shows, who I suspect leave as soon as they get to the front door. So, when you arrive, you’re always greeted by me; I always do the door, because everyone knows my name and they feel instantly relaxed. I’ve always spoken to them on email first and I’m usually the only person they know.
So, I say hi, I take their coats, I let them know what’s going to happen next, and I tell them there’s Champagne waiting for them upstairs. They’re led up the stairs, given French Champagne, then they’re introduced to the new members. All new members have a vintage key tied around their wrists. Then they’re taken through, I give a speech, then we do a short talk -- only for 15 minutes, because people get bored -- then we go into the burlesque performance.
It’s very sexy, very sultry, and it ends with her being completely naked. The art of undress can be very sexy. Especially those little pasties they wear. Then, after that, it’s pretty much a free-for-all.
To encourage the free-for-all, I play a game called “Body Tequila.” We take a volunteer, strip her down to her lingerie, she will lie down on a table, and the volunteers line her legs with salt all the way up to her lips. I stick a wedge of lime in her mouth, and shout “one, two, three, go!” The girls lick all the way up, and the winner is whoever takes the shot of tequila first.
What else happens there?
Oh, we play spin the bottle in different rooms, that usually is enough until they all manage to pair off and jump into a bed with five others or a bath with 10 others. Then, three o’clock strikes and they all have to go home. Then, of course, the next day is all the lost property. My God, I have wardrobes full of dresses, shoes, knickers, bras, suspenders, corsets, hats, and I put it all on Instagram.
The majority don’t come back to claim them.
For the brave that come, it will liberate you and it’ll give you that confidence you can’t get anywhere else. It’ll shape you and you won’t take shit from anyone ever again.
What kind of women come to these events?
They’re all career women, officially aged 21 to 49 -- but the majority are between 25 and 35. And the majority have a boyfriend.
Is that the age where women are most curious?
Yeah, I feel like they’re either unsettled in their relationship and they want to spice it up or they just feel bored and want to try something completely new.
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