"Each one of my friends did the most amount of growing when their entire world fell apart," says Zara Barrie, a senior writer for Elite Daily and relationships savant. "When your world falls apart, you get to pick up the broken pieces and rebuild your life, exactly the way you want it."
After the smoke has cleared, wounds have begun to heal, and you meet someone new to love, you realize that you're stronger for having gone through the pain. You may never be grateful for it, but you can see the value in having gone through something so tough.
You figure out what you DON'T want in a partner (and what you do)
I went through two ridiculously awful breakups in my 20s, and I can honestly say I'm happy they happened. If I hadn't dated two completely different (but equally terrible) people, I might never have realized that my current partner was the one for me.
It's through trial and error that we come to understand what we do and don't want out of life and love.
Zara, who went through four major breakups in her 20s, says she's grateful for all of them. "Every single relationship has been worth it, even if it was with an asshole, because each one raised my standards and taught me what I'm willing to put up with vs. what I absolutely will NOT put up with. Also, each heartbreak brings you closer and closer to your real self. Heartbreak forces you to take a fresh look at your life and reevaluate what you want and what truly makes you happy."