"Each one of my friends did the most amount of growing when their entire world fell apart," says Zara Barrie, a senior writer for Elite Daily and relationships savant. "When your world falls apart, you get to pick up the broken pieces and rebuild your life, exactly the way you want it."
After the smoke has cleared, wounds have begun to heal, and you meet someone new to love, you realize that you're stronger for having gone through the pain. You may never be grateful for it, but you can see the value in having gone through something so tough.
You figure out what you DON'T want in a partner (and what you do)
I went through two ridiculously awful breakups in my 20s, and I can honestly say I'm happy they happened. If I hadn't dated two completely different (but equally terrible) people, I might never have realized that my current partner was the one for me.