If your relationship is in deep trouble -- the kind of trouble more sex won’t fix -- figure it out and even try talking to a counselor. But if everything else between you is solid, you might be able to fix the issue by penciling in some intercourse.
Pick a date. Or multiple dates!
It’s actually easier to rule out dates and times that you know will not work. Does she smoke cigars with her barfly buddies on Thursdays? Do you spend Monday evenings with your crochet bros and know you can't get back home to the misses until that pretty-ass doily is done?
"Create a calendar with every element of intimacy on it," instructs Dr. Prudence Hall of The Hall Center in Santa Monica, CA. "A date night, time away alone as a couple, time to talk, and lovemaking. Lovemaking needs to be viewed as a practice. We don't always want to meditate or do our yoga, but we know how wonderful it is for us. Lovemaking can be viewed in a similar way. Schedule it and it is more likely to happen!" She adds: "It is quite astonishing how receptive men are to our needs when we honor theirs."