The move turned out to be a super-fabulous idea. I'm obsessed with living together. It's so easy and comfortable. For the last two months, I've had no complaints. It's just been easygoing -- and the dividing of chores, bills, and so on has been a breeze.
Everything was F-ing great... until I heard about this little Kelly Raley study. And I had to wonder what it was that stopped some couples from getting married, once they made the obvious progression to move in together? It all seems rather systematic to me.
You live together, you get engaged, get married, have kids, etc. It seems like the obvious move. In fact, moving in together feels more intense than a piece of paper declaring you man and wife, IMHO.
Why does this even happen?
According to the brief, "... Even while social ideas about the necessity of marriage are changing over time, structural barriers may be preventing some people who want to get married from securing resources for stable family life."
I found myself scratching my head on this one. What does living together have to do with structural barriers? If the barriers we're talking about are financial, wouldn't the consolidation of resources into one household make it easier to get married?