Dating makes you a slut
The nation, collectively, owes Roz Doyle an apology for the way she was constantly shit on in Frasier. Not literally, of course; Dr. Frasier Crane would never stoop to that level. However, one could learn a lot about the culture of slut-shaming from watching any episode of Frasier.
Her active sex life becomes the butt of the joke throughout the series, warranting episodes that focus around her exploits. In one episode, she has a fling with a fellow radio host, in another it’s revealed that she has a "black book" that contains the names and numbers of all her past partners. Meanwhile, Frasier's promiscuity is never mentioned, regardless of the fact that the man has slept with the entire city of Seattle! A more complete list is here...
Frasier certainly didn't begin the stereotype that dating around makes you a person of loose morals or a joke to one's friends, but the show certainly didn't do anything to refute the idea. It takes a long time for those longstanding stereotypes to become challenged and torn down.
You can stay friends with your ex without any consequences
Give it up to Elaine Benes for being, simultaneously, the least relatable and most relatable woman in all of sitcom history. Even though the character was created by a dude, she's still the most multidimensional women from the era.
It'd be impossible not to identify with a woman like Elaine, who surrounds herself with guys and keeps finding herself in objectively unhealthy relationships -- namely with David Puddy. On the other hand, it's harder to find someone -- male or female -- who's successfully bridged the gap between an ex and a friend.
Sure, there are some episodes early on where Jerry and Elaine try to figure out exactly what they are, but the majority of the series is them hanging out as if they had never seen each other naked before. Props to Friends for showing audiences how hard it is to make the transition from lover to friend without breaking hearts along the way.
That doesn't mean that people shouldn't stop themselves from trying to stay friends with a former fling, but most shows glaze over the fact that tons of couples try and fail at this very move and lose friends along the way.
They never go over the part where one person has to cancel plans because they've found out their ex is going or the part where a one-night stand ruins everything both people had worked on and plummets the relationship back to zero.
Dating's hard and women are more than punchlines, that's just something the '90s didn't get quite right.
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Jeremy Glass is a writer for Thrillist and is going to stick to what he knows best: advice about women from the 1890s.