There's a long waiting list
"It’s not like they can just do it," Ryan said of prisoners seeking to host conjugal visits. "There's a waiting list, and they know well in advance [when they're scheduled]. You can't have any disciplinary history at all."
All states offering overnight visits require prisoners who get on the list to have impeccable prison behavior -- and to have already been incarcerated for at least 90 days. Inmates who are lifers or sex offenders aren't (usually) allowed conjugals.
The living spaces are totally hooked up
Conjugal visits are held in rooms, trailers, and cabins -- many of which are stocked with things like condoms, linens, and soap, and have up to two bedrooms so kids can visit as well. Living areas are further furnished with board games, cards, or dominoes.
"At Green Haven there were three trailers next to the main facilities inside the wall," Ryan said. "Each trailer was cut in half so they would have six visits at a time. You’d get put in on a Monday morning, stay the whole night, and come out a Tuesday afternoon."
The trailers at Greenhaven were like mini apartments for inmates and their loved ones. "There are kitchens in there, just like a regular trailer," Ryan said. "People can bring in food, there's a TV, PlayStation, a little playground area for the kids."