Every girl loves to be called smart. Hilarious is a good one too -- and even pretty, when done in a non-creepy or catcalling kind of a way. But when a guy calls you "cool" -- now, that’s the biggest compliment of them all.
But is it?
The "Cool Girl" is who every woman aspires to be -- and whom every man aspires to be with. This specific type of female was perfectly characterized in "that passage" of Gillian Flynn’s novel Gone Girl:
"Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she's hosting the world's biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want…"
Cool Girl seems like the quintessential lover. Especially since society has an affinity for pigeonholing most women as "crazy" (aka emotional, honest, and expressive). But here's the thing: Cool Girl doesn't actually exist. I should know -- I used to pretend to be her.