It was really weird. When he ended it out of the blue after saying, "I love you, I love you, I love you," I felt crazy because suddenly he was over it and I wasn't, but, actually, I was the more logical one because he said he loved me and we were in this secret thing, and then suddenly he was like, "Mmm, never mind. I'm over it."
I think that a crazy ex-boyfriend, whatever crazy means, applies to both parties, that there is an unhealthiness and there is a co-dependency going on with both people. Chances are if you call someone a crazy ex, look in the mirror. You probably helped that happen.
Guys can’t take rejection as well as they think they can
It's men with social problems who don't quite know how to interact in society, especially with women, and what you've done is you've given them maybe a little bit of friendliness, and then they seize upon it, and they become clingy and they don't know how to act around you.
That's the experience I've had with men. There was this one guy I worked with years ago. I was friendly, and then he asked me out. I said "No," but I think I said no in like a really overly friendly way.
He then sent me a four-page email talking about how I should act around guys. He's like, "You come off as very flirty, and some guys can misinterpret that."
"You meet guys like that, who take the littlest crumb of kindness or friendship, and then they're like 'OK, cool. We're in love now, and I own you.'"
It really was like a four-page crazy fucking email. Six months later, he came to a play I directed, and brought me flowers. I was like, "Thanks for the flowers." He called me up later, and was like, "I just want to know what I've done wrong as a person, if you could tell me what I've done wrong as a person."
You meet guys like that, who take the littlest crumb of kindness or friendship, and then they're like, "OK, cool. We're in love now, and I own you. Your friendship and your kindness give me an ownership over you."