It's no secret that decadent wedding celebrations have become more mainstream, with the average special day ringing in at an utterly ridiculous $32,000. Of course, it doesn’t help that TV shows like Say Yes to the Dress and My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding seek to normalize this garish behavior.
Still, none of this justifies a horrific new trend: people applying fundraising tools to their wedding days. Yup, apparently, this is a thing now; and a growing segment of almost-married couples are logging into sites like Crowdrise, Indiegogo, GoFundMe, and even the appropriately named Crowded Wedding and Honeyfund to ask strangers, comrades, and friends on Facebook they haven't seen in 20 years to donate money that will help pay for their dream weddings.
Search through these sites and you'll find THOUSANDS (!) of entries for wedding and honeymoon fundraising. I can't say I'm entirely surprised by this wedding “trend” -- but I can tell you it makes my blood boil. Here's why.
Potatoes versus polar bears
The internet makes it so easy to do it all -- including crowd-funding for anything under the sun -- and society today tends to bask in novel, self-serving things. I kid you not that in 2014, a man propelled a Kickstarter to raise $10 for making a bowl of potato salad -- his campaign went viral, granting him $55,000 to throw a party with more than 3,000lbs of potatoes. You can’t make this stuff up.
It’s too bad: crowd-sourcing can be a really fantastic tool when said campaign is raising money for suicide awareness, or childhood hunger, or saving endangered polar bears, or all-around bettering the world we live in. Such benevolent canvases lose the spotlight because god forbid there are couples out there that can’t afford their storybook nuptials!
Here are the facts: thanks to crowd-funding, there’s a man now balls-deep in potato salad; and similarly, couples are begging strangers to hand them money on silver monogrammed platters for wedding day merrymaking. Ipso facto, one could argue they’re all polar bear killers.
Haven’t your guests done enough?
If (and most likely when) your wedding campaign doesn’t go potato salad-viral, there likely won’t be enough willing strangers to foot your bill. In which case, who is left to supplement those donations but your family and friends -- people who already RSVP-ed yes to buying you wedding gifts, booking hotel rooms, and flying coach from Chicago in between a crying infant and a man with acrophobia.
Oh -- and if she’s a bridesmaid, she’s purchasing a dress that face it, she’s NEVER going to wear again. Simply put, that’s asking A LOT of your guests. And I promise that even if they love you, they will still resent you on some level for putting them in that position.