Anna agrees: “After I got home that night, Nick texted to tell me how much his buddies liked me -- his best friend even called me a ‘keeper,’ which made me feel good. Nick went on to say, ‘His opinion is so important to me and I take it to heart, so I’m happy he really likes you.’”
Because when you give the BFF reasons to vouch for you, it can only be good for your relationship with your partner.
Harmless intrigue versus real flirting
I never once wanted to dump a boyfriend for his bestie, actually flirt with one of these friends, or so much as imagine any of them naked. My end focus was ALWAYS on bettering my relationship with my partner. And maybe a little bit on myself, too -- because hey, I’m human and it feels good to be liked!
But the difference between BFS and deceit lies in your intention -- and here’s where the problems start. “It’s detrimental if you’re flirting with the friend for self-serving attention, or if you’re trying to get him to put the moves on you,” explains Sullivan. “Dreaming of having physical relations with him or ignoring your partner to spend more time with him are insincere actions that can lead to infidelity.”