Women are better educated, more financially independent, and under far less pressure to get married by, like, 23. Being a single woman is way more fun (and less stigmatizing) than it used to be. And thanks to right-swiping, etc, it’s a lot easier to meet guys who aren’t you. If you’re going to impose yourself on her actually enjoyable, self-sufficient single life, you’ve got to prove you’re worth it. Politeness alone won’t cut it anymore. As one single lady puts it, “You could hold ten million doors for me, if you don’t have an edge to your personality, it’s not going to work.”
How to deal
Lucky for you, "edge" is a more expansive term than it was in the '80s. "These days, even if you're into traditionally dorky things, like cosplay or Entourage, there is a girl out there who thinks that's super sexy," reassures Walker. "But you still better dress well and shower. And pay for drinks."