But remember that everything you're feeling is totally normal. Relationships, even if they ended years ago, have a way of sticking with you and shaping you so it's only natural if you feel weird, sad, or even skeeved out. You won't feel that way forever.
What's the best way for a couple to get out of a sexual rut?
People in relationships will be the first to tell you that after a while, sex becomes routine. And those couples who insist their sex is always fiery, passionate, and pornographic are definitely lying. The difference between couples and friends is sex. It's pretty important. That said, when you're with the same person day in, day out, it can, and will, get old. But fear not! Just because you might not be feeling the old repertoire doesn't mean you can't strike up a new one.
"Being in a rut usually comes from having sex the same way all the time, either in the same position, place, or time, or if it follows the same format," says Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex. "Human beings are wired for novelty and there are so many sexy things to do together that you don't need to run out of options."