At first, when people told me these things, I tried to push them. I told them about every happy, lasting, fulfilling relationship I’ve witnessed. The couples in those relationships all have the same “When we first started dating” story.
They glowingly talk about how they hardly ate or slept or concentrated at work because they found any spare moment to be talking with or hanging out with the other person. They would talk about the nonstop, bonkers touching/sex and the inability to be in polite company. They would talk about being enveloped in the other person. They would break off relationships or move across the country. They would alienate friends. They would learn to love a cat, even though they are most definitely allergic.
Know when someone's just not that into you
Don’t get me wrong. Just because someone loves to hang out with you doesn’t mean they’re your soulmate. BUT! If someone won’t make time for you, then they aren’t into you. The relationship is going nowhere. It doesn’t matter if it’s 2016 or 1986. It doesn’t matter if someone is shy or busy or sleepy or nervous or attached to someone else. As human beings, we can’t help ourselves when we’re into someone. It’s a literal drug; urging you over and over to be in the company of the person who makes you produce those happy vibes.