If someone is into you, they will find a way to be with you. No exceptions.
In all the relationships I’ve witnessed from the sidelines of my longterm union, this is the one rule that has never gone away, never wavered, never been disproven. Yet when I try to tell someone who is single this rule, they genuinely never believe me.
“You don’t understand. Dating is different nowadays.”
“He’s just gotten out of a relationship, so he wants to take things slow.”
“She’s just really independent so she likes to be alone most days.”
“No, no, you don’t get it. He’s got a super-busy job, so it’s just hard for him to make time for me.”
“She’s just spending a lot of time with the girls lately.”
At first, when people told me these things, I tried to push them. I told them about every happy, lasting, fulfilling relationship I’ve witnessed. The couples in those relationships all have the same “When we first started dating” story.
They glowingly talk about how they hardly ate or slept or concentrated at work because they found any spare moment to be talking with or hanging out with the other person. They would talk about the nonstop, bonkers touching/sex and the inability to be in polite company. They would talk about being enveloped in the other person. They would break off relationships or move across the country. They would alienate friends. They would learn to love a cat, even though they are most definitely allergic.