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I'm going through a rough patch with a girl right now. She's quite a bit younger than I am, but girls mature so much faster than guys do.
We have been talking on and off for about a year now. We also work together. She has told me she loves me on many occasions. And then she also says that she doesn't know how she feels. She goes back and forth constantly. All the while, I have fallen completely in love with this girl.
She refuses to let me post pics of us together on any social media because she "thinks her family will have questions." Yet, she posts pics of her and other guys. Just the other day one of my so-called "friends" blocked me from her phone on everything. This happened two days after she and I had a deep conversation and kissed. Now I can't even talk to her... and I see that she and my "friend" have been hanging out more often.
It just seems to me that she doesn't give a care in the world about me anymore, but I still have to see her at work and stuff. I just want to be able to talk to her. She has become my best friend... what do I do? I feel worthless, and like she's embarrassed to say she loves me. What is wrong with me?
Thanks for writing in. It sounds like what you need is some good old-fashioned real talk from your Auntie G. So let's just jump right in.
You begin your letter by saying you're going through a rough patch with a girl, but then you go on to say you're not even dating her. That's a big red flag for me. This girl is not in a relationship with you and, frankly, it sounds like she doesn't want to be. I know this is harsh and is definitely not what you want me to say. Hear me out.
If she was into you and wanted to be your girlfriend, she would be your girlfriend. Trust me: When it comes to us ladies, we don't keep a guy we really want to be with on the fence. On the contrary, we jump in full force. We don't care what our parents think.