Fact: if you’re dealing with someone who seems kind of serious or distant, but they keep spending time with you, they enjoy your company. Chances are, you’re already a lot farther along than most people have gotten. Opening up is a slow process for women like me -- but when we do, we're all in. That kind of loyalty and vulnerability isn't given out casually.
'Emotionlessness' is a misnomer
Of course, no person is devoid of emotion. Many of us just process our feelings differently. When one man broke up with me and I laughed at him (not my proudest moment for sure), it wasn’t because I didn't feel anything -- conversely, by that time I was just so disappointed in our relationship that I expected nothing from him.
I am what I am, and feel what I feel. Most of those emotions are catalogued in an OCD label-maker kind of organization, in which I distinguish specific emotions and when and how to show them. Some people have a natural comfort within their own skin and can let themselves go at any moment with any person. People who come across as lacking emotions have a more difficult time doing that. And sometimes, it's just as simple as figuring out simpler ways to make our ‘ice-cold hearts’ melt. (Chubby animal pictures on Instagram. Every time.)