I was a novelty for him.
Some may argue that I thought too deeply about it; or that I let race consume me. But preconceived biases we carry into our dating practices can absolutely be traced to racial stereotypes alive and well in how the media presents people of varying nationalities and backgrounds. It's in how we look at each other, what (and whom) we're used to seeing, and how we understand people who are different from us: in appearance, in behavior, in upbringing.
So, finally, I confronted him. We got into a shouting match. And soon enough, things ended between us.
A fetish isn't love
When it comes to dating, we're not always going to be someone's preference, and that's OK. We live in a world filled with different cultures, and it's natural to be attracted to those differences. But a fetish is not love -- to have that, you have to see someone as a real person. Not a novelty.