So if your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't taking the reins, telling them that you would like it if they did is completely OK. There could also be that TINY issue that he or she might not be into you anymore... but again, that is a problem that can be solved with a simple, "Hey, babe, how come you haven’t jumped MY bones lately?"
Does putting lube inside of a condom really improve the experience?
Short answer: yes.
Less short answer: condoms suck. But so do STDs and unplanned pregnancies. So to avoid things like gonorrhea and diapers, we kind of HAVE to use them. The main issues with condoms are that they decrease sensitivity and that they get dry, making sex sometimes a tad painful. No bueno.
We know you know about lube on the OUTSIDE of the condom, but putting lube on the INSIDE is going to change your life. A few drops in the reservoir tip is all you need to achieve that same level of naughty, euphoric joy you get when you put it in bare. (OK, maybe not QUITE like that... but still pretty great.) Plus, lubing both sides of the condom greatly decreases the chance of condom tearing. Condom tearing, for the record, is also not particularly bueno.