A gay best friend is the ultimate wingman
Jake is the helpline I dial when I’m frantically barricaded in a date’s bathroom. He’s the one I model my favorite jeans for when they reach the cusp of looking passably vintage or straight-up hobo fabulous. And he’s definitely the person I bring along to the store when I pick out flowers.
But my friendship with Jake has helped me with more than style and floral arrangements. He has also taught me how to be more romantic and sensitive to women’s needs.
He is my spy for what women want, because of the way they trust and open up to him. Take, for instance, when a girl from our airline told him about her crush on me.
He called me that night. “What are you doing tomorrow night?” I told him I didn't know. “You’re going on a date with Holly." Jake went on to plan the night’s events. He also explained what would win points with Holly, the qualities she was looking for, and what she was passionate about. “A few more quick things," he said. "She doesn’t care about your car, ask to hold her hand, and keep your spirited opinions on the ‘Free the Nipple’ campaign to yourself.”
Basically, all I had to do was show up. The intel Jake provided was essentially a combination to her heart.
Gay men can untangle the feminine mystique
Women can be complicated beings, and straight men are clueless. But gay men have an amazing ability to bridge the gap as intermediaries.
I found the ultimate friendship with Jake. Women always talk about wanting to have a gay friend; and honestly, I can’t blame them. While verifying (and exploiting) gay men's superior wingmen abilities, I discovered another commonality: for reasons I can’t begin to understand, gay men on multiple occasions have confided they feel threatened by their straight counterparts.
Being true to oneself is downright inspiring
Some have shared that every time they walk into a room, they are afraid to be themselves. They sense hatred before even getting the chance to be heard. This inspired me -- not only because several gay men have been open to my friendship despite this fear; but also that these brave men live a life true to themselves no matter the daily consequences.
The bigoted suggestions that gay men are somehow weak, or lesser men, couldn’t be further from the truth. In my mind, there is nothing braver than being yourself, even if it means risking family, friends, and -- as history has stubbornly shown us -- your own personal safety.
Some of these men, like Jake, are my best friends. I’m blessed to have them at my side in the skies.
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