I was recently un-ghosted.
During a mid-drink phone check at a West Village bar, I discovered a text from a random 646 number I didn't recognize. It read [DRUM ROLL PLEASE]: "On a scale from 1-10, if I tried to say 'what's up', what would the rejection level be? (10 worst)."
Scrolling through the months-old conversation above this message, it dawned on me that the text came from a man (let's call him "'Tim") with whom I went (and made) out with ONCE, almost four months earlier. Several quippy texts after that date, Tim disappeared from the face of the Earth. Until now.
It turns out, un-ghosting is now a standard dating practice. A week before my own re-haunting, I encountered three other friends who were on the receiving end of similar un-ghosting advances. Which left me to wonder, Carrie Bradshaw-style, why is un-ghosting becoming a more common occurrence? And what can we do about it? Here are my theories on the matter.