Welcome to In Bed with Gigi Engle, a weekly column in which sex and relationships writer Gigi Engle answers your most intimate questions. Nothing is off-limits! From threesomes to anal, unrequited love to cheating: We want to hear it all.
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How much does sex actually affect a relationship?
I've been married for five years and lately, my sex life hasn't been so great. It’s not like when we were first together and the sparks were really flying. Now it's just dry. Both of us work full-time and when we get home, we're almost always too tired to have sex. I’d say we have sex an average of once a week.
Here's the thing: Neither of us is complaining. Still, it seems unhealthy to be having it so infrequently. We still get along, but do you think this is bad for our relationship?
I have old ladies in my family who tell me how their husbands had affairs after menopause. I could understand that because when a woman goes through menopause, sex isn't fun anymore, right? But that's a long way away for me -- if my husband and I don't fix this, am I at risk for being cheated on too?