But! Sometimes the plot thickens... with adultery! “Deception is involved when monogamy is violated,” says Dr. Nicole Prause, a sexual psychophysiologist. “It’s very common for partners with an outside, concealed partner not to use condoms and not to tell their current, unprotected partner,” Dr. Prause says. “Sadly, testing may be a necessary alternative to good communication for many couples.”
Womp-womp. There’s also a good chance your partner has herpes type I or II (85% of US adults do). “The type no longer indicates the location of [herpes], because oral sex has been extremely common in the US for decades,” Dr. Prause says. She adds that there’s a movement to stop calling herpes “sexually” transmitted, considering you can give it to a baby by pinching its adorable, chubby cheeks.