Talking about the future is romantic
I live with my domestic partner. He's on my health insurance, and we share a credit card and bank account. Yet, I still feel anxious when we talk about marriage. It's not that I don't want to marry him; I just worry about the romance factor.
I find myself saying things like, "When we get married…" and "I can't wait to be your wife," without even considering the fact that he hasn't even asked me to marry him yet. I know he wants to marry me, but is talking about it spoiling the surprise of the proposal?
Dr. Freed says being able to talk about the future means your relationship is actually stronger. "A great balance is when couples can talk candidly about their future together while diligently focusing on the best they can be in the present." That balance actually sounds a hell of a lot more romantic than wondering, assuming, or feeling anxious about the future or where your partner stands.