I asked my resident married friend (RMF) if she and her husband talked about getting married a lot before he proposed. Turns out, the two of them brought the topic up in conversation regularly.
"We talked about our future together a lot, and in definite terms (including what our wedding would be like)," she says. "I knew we would be getting married. But I had no idea of a timeline as to when he would pop the question. I knew he was interested in rings when he started paying closer attention to my married and engaged friends' rings. I was also NOT subtle in dropping hints of what I wanted my ring to look like -- I would find photos on Instagram or online somewhere and send him a screenshot."
Talking about the future is romantic
I live with my domestic partner. He's on my health insurance, and we share a credit card and bank account. Yet, I still feel anxious when we talk about marriage. It's not that I don't want to marry him; I just worry about the romance factor.
I find myself saying things like, "When we get married…" and "I can't wait to be your wife," without even considering the fact that he hasn't even asked me to marry him yet. I know he wants to marry me, but is talking about it spoiling the surprise of the proposal?